There’s a time and a place for everything. Lessons learned the easy way and then some that you fight tooth and nail with. For me. This is a journey of self love and one I pray someone else gains from my tears along the way....
I was scrolling through Instagram a few weeks ago as is habit. When I stumbled across one talking about how she served her Husband. And it really hit home - Hard! I stopped serving Jason. In many ways. I got lost for a while and it nearly broke not jsut me. But our marriage. It was a raw eye opener. But since then I’d still not been serving him. Yes working day in and day out beside him. Carrying my weight more than I should. Trying to be his FarmHAND not farm wife. Being his FARMING partner but not a partner in our marriage.
I stopped serving him. I stopped cartering to his needs. And it put this huge pit in between us. He easy tosses out that “I don’t care” about him and the other day ... I finally realized my oversight. He needs to be “cared” for in more aspects than I felt was needed. We’re entering our 30s. I shouldn’t have to continue picking up behind him. I expect the kids to be able to without asking them - He should too .. right?!
WRONG. SO VERY very wrong of me to think this. Because me doing simple things such as filling his plate at night, setting out a towel and boxers for his evening shower for whenever he makes it in is MY acts of Kindness. It’s the little small things. Making sure he has snacks and drinks in his tractor. Those are the little things that make him feel cared for. And for so long. I complained and yes. Bitched about this. It frustrated me to no ends! I’m not “your mother”. I’m you’re wife. And I was looking at this as another darn chore to add to my plate. I have enough going on. Cattle, horses. The kids. The farming and bills in between. And for what?! In return does he take the trash out?! Nope. Keaton has picked up on that chore. Something he feels “proud” to do because it’s one job his sister can’t steal from him (fire!)
But it was stepping away and digging deeper into things to realize his “i don’t cares” were stemmed by the things I’d stopped doing throughout our marriage over the last few years. Dating is easy. Marriage takes work. Every single day. And I think that’s where I’ve failed the most. The little things always go so much further.
So each night I will continue to make his plate - I’ll continue to show little acts of care & love.
Wives, be willing to serve your husbands the same as the Lord. A husband is the head of his wife, just as Christ is the head of the church. Christ is the Savior of the church, which is his body. The church serves under Christ, so it is the same with you wives. You should be willing to serve your husbands in everything. Husbands, love your wives the same as Christ loved the church and gave his life for it.