Chronicles of a Farmers Wife … Surviving “Mom” Life

How do we get over that feeling? How do we not get angry at our spouses that have worked all day & then come home and they’re able to rest or watch tv while we’re still cooking & doing laundry all while giving baths and helping with homework? Where we do stop & say enough and close our own eyes? Because I’m still not sleeping through the night with a toddler. Insert our high addiction to caffeine & I give mad probs to those mommies who stay at home with their kids!! I respect that. Because I am not sure I was ever built to do that. Going to work is my break from being mom. It allows me to talk to adults & interact on more than Mickey Mouse & Frozen. Don’t get me wrong. I’d love to be a stay at home mom. In 3 years. When Jaelyn’s in school and I’m training horses & able to help Jason full time. But even that’s a stretch. Working with him at night and during the weekends is enough sometimes for me to be praising Monday’s at the office which is exactly why yesterday I started thinking about that is subject of surviving mom life.

Because My temper flew yesterday morning right off the bat. During winter I sort of have “higher” expectations of said farm boy. He’s not in the fields so I expect him to be able to do more around the house and especially help with the children. Just so happened the days I need him so does everyone else. It’s cold. I’m supposed to get first dips on him. And that’s not the way it works. He may be self employed farmer. But that’s his job. I knew last week he was having to deliver hay Wednesday and Thursday. It wasn’t like they called the same time I did and he chose them over helping watch Jaelyn so I could work. (Insert guilt – over being a good employee or being a better mom. This happens quite often for me. I am blessed with a great company & even better Team that I work with). As a human; I only see what I want to see at that time. Not that Jason’s outside in 10 degrees or less fighting with his tractors to start and freezing his own behind off trying to do a full load that should take 30 minutes but then turned into several hours. I don’t see him getting frustrated. All I see is him not home so that he can help me with what I wanted to accomplish. Don’t let what he does and what you do during the day become a battle of who’s doing more. Be a United team. Easier said than done.

For me. It’s finding a few moments alone before starting my day. Typically in the bathroom. Because it’s quiet generally and I’m left alone briefly before everyone else is awake. I pray. I ask for strength and guidance and that’s MY time with not “myself” but the Lord. Each day is a new one. Do not dwell on the past as that will not help you today. Do not become angry with what didn’t get accomplished. Simply put it on the top of today’s “To-Do”s. Learn from yesterday. Bite your tongue instead of releasing the nasty words that in 20 minutes you’ll find yourself crying over.

So what if your floors didn’t get moped today. Did you hug your kiddos? So what if the laundry isn’t folded. Did you cook them dinner & sit down and talk about their days? So what if the kitchen isn’t completely put away. Did you read them a bedtime story and snuggle with them as they fell asleep saying “mommy I love you”.

I may be the worst house keeper in Ralls county. But my babies are loved & kissed on. They have pretty much whatever they want within reason & they are loved. And for that I am grateful for God bringing Jason into Keaton & I’s lives over 5 years ago. Listen to God’s plan & set out for accomplishing a few things on your list today. Find yourself a good group of friends. They don’t all have to be mommas either! Get that support group. Doesn’t have to include all the same “friends” either. Have a couple of different groups to be able to go to. I am so thankful for God bringing me several do the best ladies the last few years. Some aren’t moms yet or just becoming moms, some are step moms, & some have been doing “mom” a lot longer than me. You’ll find these ladies are the rock to keeping you sane! They’ll be blunt – they’ll pray for you – they’ll be the rock you need to sit on for a while – they’ll be your encouragement and you’re “you need to knock off” friends. Be thankful for those ladies! I sure am!!!!

At the bottom are some of my personal favorite Verses from the Bible that keep me going. As well as how I combat the day with the use of Essential Oils, mostly Valor & Joy.

Bible Verses For Tired Moms

1. Bible Verses For Tired Moms

1. Matthew 11:28-30

“Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.  Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.”

2. Hebrews 6:10

“God is not unjust; He will not forget your work and the love you have shown Him as you have helped His people and continue to help them.”

3. Mark 6:31

“Come with Me by yourselves to a quiet place and get some rest.”

4. Psalm 4:8

“In peace I will lie down and sleep, for you alone, Lord, make me dwell in safety.”

5. Exodus 33:14

“The Lord replied, ‘My Presence will go with you, and I will give you rest.’”

6. Philippians 4:6-7

“Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.”

7. Psalm 46:10

“He says, ‘Be still, and know that I am God; I will be exalted among the nations; I will be exalted in the earth.”

8. Isaiah 40:31

“But those who hope in the LORD will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint.”

Joy & Valor … rolling in full force this am!! Not letting the Devil steal my “Joy” and rolling myself in Strength & confidence (Valor) as Phil 4:13 states … “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me”. For more information and learning how Essential Oils work visit my Essentials with Kayla 💕

kW 🖋

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